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    My boyfriend is being deployed in a few days, and when I asked him for an address to send things to him he told me that he doesn't want me to send him anything. He says that it'll make him homesick. But he said I can still email him. I dont understand this...anyone else have the same problem?
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    I sent lots of things...but my DB didn't call because he was worried about the same thing.
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    I just wanted to offer you lots of Give him time, he may change his mind once he gets to where he's going.
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    well, we all deal with things in our own way. i've never been to a war zone, but i imagine that it cannot be easy. maybe its just his own way of dealing with it.
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    I had a good friend in Iraq a couple years ago. He absolutely refused to give anyone but his parents his address and even threatened to be really upset with them if they sent anything but what he specifically asked for. If he could have gotten everything he needed from the PX, I really doubt they would have even gotten the address.

    I thought it was strange, but like Cav Girl said, everyone deals with things in their own way.
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    When my ex husband went underway for a month I told him not to call or email me or anything.. Because he wasn't gone for very long and if he told me he would call or email, then I would worry.. It was easier for me to get through that month not calling or emailing cauz I wasn't expecting anything from him. So I had a routine every single day that never changed. I still cried myself to sleep everynight. But it went by very quickly. And I didn't worry as much!



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    DF doesn't want anything sent because he said it takes way too long to get to him. It's okay with me though. It would be nice to send him care packages, but I'm okay with doing what he wants. Hopefully, your DB will come around.
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    Hey may say that now, but I expect he'll change his mind.
    Keep on keeping on.

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    I agree with what everyone else is saying. also....it may depend on how long he is being deployed for. DB will be gone for a year, but he actually doesn't leave the states for two months. He's training in TX. He doesn't want me to send him anything because he'll just have to pack it all up again when he leaves for Kuwait. Maybe if your DB isn't going to be gone all that long he just doesn't want to have the stuff????

    I did send DB a birthday gift, just something small, but I was sneaky and got his address from his sister. He wasn't mad at all. He actually really liked it and called me as soon as he got it to say thanks!!!
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    everyone copes differently. It may be just too hard to have tangible things there for him.


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