Am I being dumb??:(

[MissJasmin25]

Okay so DH has been deployed for about 3 weeks now. As soon as he gave me an address I sent him two care packages. One full of halloween stuff and a bunch of other stuff he asked for, and the 2nd one was specifically for his bday. The halloween package i took so much time on making it really "halloween-ish" i went to all the cool halloween shops and got him cool stuff, and i was really excited for him to get it. Andd his bday package i spent ALOT of money on a new digital camera plus all the accesories for it. Thenn i sent cards and stuff everyday. Just really sweet things to let him know his wife loves him..

So i finally get a call from him and he tells me that he got the packages, and i was soo excited. He didn't sound at ALL happy about anything i sent....and then he tells me "yah the other guys were laughing saying that you have way too much time on your hands and that you must be bored".


i'm sorry it might not sound mean in text, but it hurt my feeling SO BAD. I wanted to cry on the phone, but i kept it in because i don't like for him to hear me cry. It's like...can you at least keep that to yourself???? I don't have allot of time to myself, and he knows that! I'm exhausted all the time because i have school/work to juggle and I still made time to do nice things for him....

I am just really upset, and i feel like "whatever i don't want to send you anything anymore"


Am i being stupid? Should I tell him that it upset me? or just get over it?

[LuvNmyAO]

i'd let him know it hurt. and that it wasnt nice to say.

[LittleMsSunshine]

Awww you're not being dumb at all. I'd feel the same way if it were me. That was pretty insensitive on his part.

I think you should let him know that he hurt your feelings. Chances are he's probably clueless... most guys are when it comes to these things.

Keep your chin up... those packages were very thoughtful and sweet of you.

[paisley1370]

No your not being dumb. That would have hurt my feelings big time too. You went through all that trouble to hear that. You know my DB was telling me that a lot of guys over there get nothing in the mail. You never know, but those guys could have seen what your SO got and felt maybe a little jealous. Now your SO prob shouldnt have told you that but at least he is staying open to you,KWIM. Dont you worry about it beacuse i just sent off my DB 2 packages also and one was a halloween theme and he has been over there for 3 weeks too. So if your dumb so am i and most of the other ladies on here. Your all good.

[Kelsey]

I'd be upset too, hun. I'm not sure if you should tell him or not, it's really up to you, but maybe just mention to him that you really put a lot of thought into the packages and just wanted to let him know how much you cared about him, no matter how "cheesey" it may have been - no matter what "the guys" say, it's just your own way of showing him you're thinking about him. He could just be feeling embarrassed from some of the guys making fun of him - but you know what, they're probably just jealous that he has someone sending him things.

[ArmyGF2]

Originally Posted by MissJasmin25 So i finally get a call from him and he tells me that he got the packages, and i was soo excited. He didn't sound at ALL happy about anything i sent....and then he tells me "yah the other guys were laughing saying that you have way too much time on your hands and that you must be bored".

If my DB said that, I would have thought of it as a compliment, he shared what you sent with others, if he was totally embarassed he would have just thrown it out. I am send DB a halloween package and went a little nuts, I seriously bought eveything orange, gum, tic-tacs and of course halloween candy. I bet most of the other guys wished someone would send them things like that... Plus, when holiday's role around and your man is deployed, it is hard to celebrate... I mean, you can't send him anythings really "cool," you kind of have to get a little goofy.

Mark my words DB will make fun of me when he gets his halloween package... Also, was anyone else around when you two were talking, this may have affected his response..

Trust me, he appreciated it!

[*Crystal*]

I would definatly be upset too, and it would be awhile before my DH got another package!!

[Journey]

I would have been hurt, too. But I'm sure he does appreciate all the effort you've put into them!! Who wouldn't love to get something like that? You're amazing!!! I'd probably tell him what he said hurt, and as someone else said, there could have been other people around at the time, which may have influenced what he said.

[kiwijus]

Originally Posted by *Crystal* I would definatly be upset too, and it would be awhile before my DH got another package!!

ditto...

[Godders_Girl80]

I don't think you are being dumb...you are his wife and you like sending him that stuff. His friends are dumb and probably jealous as well because they aren't getting a lot of cool stuff from anyone. You should tell him it hurt your feelings, but I wouldn't stop sending things. I am sure he appreciates it, but you know men they have to be all "macho" when they are around their friends.