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    sentimentality vs. functionality

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    My MIL is a HUGE antique collector and apparently plans on giving me and DF a bunch of things when we marry.
    This terrifies me because I am all about functionality. I could really care less if something has been in the family for 6 generations if it's too delicate and old to do it's job. She, on the other hand, collects dishware that still has toxic paint and displays it, and moth-chewn quilts, just because they're old and have "history".

    Where do you all stand on the sentimentality <---> functionality spectrum?
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    I think sentimentality is a good thing. TBH your viewpoints are a little offputting. I hope your MIL never gives you all something special that you won't really cherish or might just throw away.
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    While I don't love all family heirlooms because like you said, some are just not function or realistic to keep around, I could never ever bring myself to be the one to get rid of them unless it became a "food on the table or not" situation.

    Something that may not have a ton of meaning to me now may later on, or may have meaning to my kids. I just couldn't handle being the one to get rid of something special to so many people.
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    A little bit of both. I hold a lot of things my grandmother has very close to me, because they have been around me since I was born. I would hate to see them be thrown away. And a lot of antique things are still of better quality than stuff that is around now, so I see a lot of stuff like that perfectly functional

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    If the scale is function is -100 and sentiment is 100,I am more on functionality. I would say probably a -50. Except a very few things. My very first HP book is so old and so used and battered that it is, literally, in pieces. But it was where my love started, so I keep it, regardless. But a blanket? Come on, who cares? A pillow? Nay. Dishes? Hell no.

    I also fully expect my kids to throw out my HP book when I die. Why do they want it?
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    Yikes that's a tough one! Personally I'm not big on sentimental attachment to physical objects. DH and I are both very minimalist people ... we have virtually no clutter or knick-knacky stuff, to the point where numerous people tell me that my house doesn't look "lived in."

    I think it's because my grandparents and my mom had kind of hoard-ish tendencies and I really hated it. My ex was the same way and it drove me to distraction. I just don't like having a bunch of useless "stuff" cluttering up the house.
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    I prefer to decorate my own home. There are a few family pieces that my parents have but I only want one of them for sentimental reasons.
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    Just wanted to add, I don't think being sentimental is a bad thing ... for me it just doesn't manifest in physical things. I don't attach the memory to the object, if that makes sense.

    Photographs are probably the one object that I place a lot of value on. I also have a bunch of my dad's old books that have his signature and date in them, but I consider those functional because my dad has awesome taste in literature. I read his old books all the time.
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    I really only keep things I'm using. I have a few things that are solely for sentimental proposes but I don't really get attached to items.

    My grandma was keeping all her china for me to have when she dies but I had to tell her I don't want it. I appreciate that she wanted to give it to me but I'm never going to have a cabinet or anything to display it, I'd rather not be the person whose house everyone goes to for holidays so I'd never have any use for it, etc. I feel really badly about that but it would really bother me to have it in my house.
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    I definitely lean more towards the functionality end of the spectrum. Anyways, I don't want other people's sentimental things. If it has value to me or to DF and it doesn't take a lot of room/isn't hassle to keep around? Sure. Great. But I don't want or need other people's junk.
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