S/O House Warming party

[NotThatMonkey]

The house warming party thread got me thinking.
Do you think it's tacky/bad to have multiple baby showers? Is there any time having more then one is okay?

[Kat89]

Yes i think its ok

I had two. There was 6 years between my kids and my youngest was husbands first so he told everyone he wanted a baby shower

[Miss[Pregg]O]

I was raised with the impression that you only have a shower for the first child. After that, as long as you weren't TOO gender specific, you already have the necessities for following babies.

HOWEVER- Just because I wouldn't have another one doesn't mean I'd have a problem going to someone else's shower for a second/third baby!

[OutlawWoman.]

I think it's okay if like, you have a work shower... a family... a friend.... a church, whatever different grouping of showers for your first baby.

But I think it's tacky to have them for the second baby of the same sex. Like, you get girl showers first, and if you have another girl... you don't get another set of showers... but if you have a boy.. it's cool to have em.

[NotThatMonkey]

I was raised that you only have one, especially if they are born close together and the same sex. The only time it's might be okay is if they're like 10 years a part or you had a girl and 5 years later had a boy.
With your second child your suppose to be more prepared.

[Rissa*Rawr]

A lot of the girls I know around here have had 2 because they'd have 1 here with their friends & then they'd go home for deployment & have the 2nd with their families. I think it's totally acceptable if you have multiple showers for different groups if you don't live in the same state as everyone.

But I think you should only have a shower for your first child. With the exception of clothes (assuming the 2nd child is a different gender), you should still have everything you need.

[SkyeNicole87]

I think if you are a military spouse or live far away from your and your spouses families and friends then it is OK. Instead of having a baby shower here in Hawaii, one in Texas for DH's family and friends, and one is Washington for my family and friends I didn't have one at all. I didn't feel like I knew anyone well enough out here to make it really special so after DS was born we had a party in both Washington and Texas to celebrate the birth of Jaxon. I specifically requested that the invitations do not list a registry or request gifts because I didn't want to ship them back to Hawaii and asking for cash or gift cards is just wrong IMO. But my parents have a lot of wealthy friends so the idea of no gift wasn't working for them and we ended up getting over a thousand dollars worth of cash and gift cards... I had A LOT of thank you notes to write lol. So, DH and I kind of assumed that the same sort of thing would happen in Texas because his mom and dad were throwing the exact same type of party. Boy were we wrong. Only his Grandma and cousin brought a gift, and there were over 50 people there. Not that we were expecting anything, but we were sort of confused why it was so different in Washington because the invitations were exactly the same. Maybe it's a social "class" type thing? But I don't think so really because even when I was a broke college student, never would I show up to a party bringing something.. but thats just me. Maybe things are different in Texas.

[Andie]

I think the general rule is only for the first child or if there is a long time between the first and the next.

Me, personally, I think babies are exciting so I'm okay with parties for each one.

Multiple for the same baby? I think if you have family somewhere far away and you decide to travel so they don't have to it's okay to do two. As long as the same people aren't going to the multiple showers then I think that's fine.

[amandabcdefg]

i don't see a problem.. you obviously won't get the big stuff you got at the first one since you already have it.. but new baby clothes and personalized things and welcoming this new baby!

[HollySunshine]

So seems like we are talking about different things.

No I don't think it's tacky to have multiple showers for the same baby and I always grew up having showers for every baby whether they were the same sex as the last or not. just me I guess