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[gp31908]

I think it's ok to have seperate showers, in my case we lived far from family when I got pregnant the first time. So my friends threw me one. This time we live close to family but DH's family live in MI and my family lives in IN. So we're having two this time.

I would say if you aren't in a similar situation it's still ok too. You probably wont need much the second time around but a baby is always a good excuse to have a party

[Moxie]

Originally Posted by Chikatoka Normally the shower is NOT thrown by the mom. I had NO choice into was was on my invites. I fought like hell to keep the registry info off the invites.

The mom is the one who makes the registry, though. Again, I am fine with having a party for each child, but asking for gifts for each is what turns me off.

[Southern-queen]

Originally Posted by Moxie The mom is the one who makes the registry, though. Again, I am fine with having a party for each child, but asking for gifts for each is what turns me off.

Mom makes the registry because many friends and family (mostly family) want to buy gifts for the baby. Proper protocol is that the registry is not included in the invites but given out upon request.

[Chikatoka]

Originally Posted by Moxie The mom is the one who makes the registry, though. Again, I am fine with having a party for each child, but asking for gifts for each is what turns me off.

Yep the mom makes the registry. But, I have one for this child that I don't think anyone will ever see. You get all kinds of freebes going in to register LOL Also depending on the store, if it is past the "party date" or due date, they will give you a discount on the stuff remaining on it.

There are more reasons to have one than to JUST ask for stuff.

[*Stephanie*]

I think every baby can be celebrated. I think a lot depends on the family. It's just normal in mine and no one thinks anything of it. That said everyone tends to have much smaller showers. I registered for both so I could get the 10% off the stuff we needed. I didn't give out my registry info though unless someone asked me. It's tacky to put that stuff in invitations anyways IMO.

[MissQ]

I think it's ok if you're having an opposite sex child, have gotten rid of all of your stuff b/c of a wide time gap, or just to celebrate the next baby. That being said, maybe not so much if the gift requests are cribs, strollers, and swings. I'm old fashioned in the sense of one should save that stuff and reuse it, especially if it was a gift in the first place.

My friends threw a second shower for me when I got pregnant with my third child. It was just to be nice and probably unneccessary. The gifts were small and we spent most of our time eating and talking. I got things like clothes and diapers, the biggest gift was a bouncer.

[amberj]

It depends. For instance my cousin had twin boys and had a shower for them. Then they had another baby boy and had a shower for him. It was unnecessary IMO, they already had more than they needed for another baby.

[Loving]

I don't really care how many baby showers people have, as long as there is cake and I am invited.

[AwwSnail]

I think every child should be celebrated.

Anyway, I think every baby should have a party celebrating their coming and their birth! I think its beatiful when parents show equal love for each child and make their own traditions for their families...older siblings will remember it and do the same for their children and hopefully that will instill in them a level of parenting and celebrating the lives of their own children one day.

Babies are so special. They should be treated like royalty.

[Sarah.]

Originally Posted by SandyKay Every child deserves to be showered, why should the eldest be more special than the other kids. As far as having more than 1 per child, I think so long as there are different groups at each one and the mother isn't the one hosting them, then there is nothing wrong with it.

This.


Baby showers are NOT about "receiving gifts" and I find that those who assume that's all they are about are completely ignorant on the topic. A baby shower is a celebration of life. If there are gifts - cool - if not - then everyone have some cake and make fun of how huge the mother is and play stupid games and gather around talking about the things that women talk about in regards to babies. It drives me bonkers that people place rules and regulations on celebrating things.

I think it's snotty to assume that all pregnancies are planned and parents shouldn't have kids if they can't afford them, I think it's snotty to assume that all people having baby showers are only in it for gifts, and I find it absurd to say that only the first child "deserves" a baby shower.

This is our first child, this baby didn't get a baby shower. Know why? Because all of our close friends and family are thousands of miles away. If we ever have another kid, whether by accident or as a planned pregnancy - we may or may not have a shower - but it certainly wouldn't be because we are looking for gifts and charity. It'll be because it's a celebration of the addition to our family. If the situation were to arise that baby #2 gets a baby shower and I hear or catch wind of anyone having an attitude because it's my 2nd child, I will flip out.

Not that I have an opinion or anything.