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    Loving 2?

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    A discussion with a friend lead us to a debate. I do not believe it's possible to be truly in love with two people, but she does. I'm curious of what ya'll think.


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    First there is huge difference in being IN LOVE and loving someone.

    You can love someone without being in love, like DH and I. But if you think you're "in love" with 2 people at the same time, it's probably infatuation.

    So, no it's not possible.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Ilovemyairman<3 View Post
    First there is huge difference in being IN LOVE and loving someone.
    You can love someone without being in love,
    like DH and I. But if you think you're "in love" with 2 people at the same time, it's probably infatuation.

    So, no it's not possible.

    I definitely agree with that which is why I'm specifically speaking about being in love.


    I agree with the infatuation comment as well.
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    Yes, it is possible.

    I love my DH truly, madly, deeply. He is my life and I will love him always and be with him always.

    That said, I have someone in my life that I have loved for over 32 years now. Circumstances have always prevented us from being together but no matter what, I love him as much as I love my DH and he feels the same about me.

    I will never be with him but that doesn't matter; it is enough to know that he is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ilovemyairman<3 View Post
    First there is huge difference in being IN LOVE and loving someone.

    You can love someone without being in love, like DH and I. But if you think you're "in love" with 2 people at the same time, it's probably infatuation.

    So, no it's not possible.
    I'm IN LOVE with my husband and LOVE him as well.

    IN LOVE with two at a time? I agree that is more than likely infatuation or just downright lust.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Songtan Sally View Post
    Yes, it is possible.

    I love my DH truly, madly, deeply. He is my life and I will love him always and be with him always.

    That said, I have someone in my life that I have loved for over 32 years now. Circumstances have always prevented us from being together but no matter what, I love him as much as I love my DH and he feels the same about me.

    I will never be with him but that doesn't matter; it is enough to know that he is.
    I hope I'm not prying, if I am tell me. I'm genuinely curious. Do you feel that it affects your relationship with your dh at all? Do you imagine how your life would be different if you were with the other guy?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Songtan Sally View Post
    Yes, it is possible.

    I love my DH truly, madly, deeply. He is my life and I will love him always and be with him always.

    That said, I have someone in my life that I have loved for over 32 years now. Circumstances have always prevented us from being together but no matter what, I love him as much as I love my DH and he feels the same about me.

    I will never be with him but that doesn't matter; it is enough to know that he is.
    That so reminds me of the mother from The Notebook. I would hate to be so conflicted like taht.
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    I think you cant love two people the same... I dont love my parents or both my siblings the same....yet they are all just as important.
    I dont think I could ever love someone the same I love my SO...
    So my answer was no, because it wouldnt be the same kind of love, but I definately love more than one person..... make sense?
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    It doesn't affect my relationship with my DH. I don't think about what might or could be, I am deliriously happy in my marriage.

    It's not a conflict, really. It actually gives me a heightened sense of self-worth and security, knowing that I am important to someone and that no matter what happens in my life, I will always have that person to care about me.

    I think it makes my marriage better because I know that I am with my DH because I want to be, not because I "have" to be or feel that I have no other options.

    Does that make sense?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Songtan Sally View Post
    It doesn't affect my relationship with my DH. I don't think about what might or could be, I am deliriously happy in my marriage.

    It's not a conflict, really. It actually gives me a heightened sense of self-worth and security, knowing that I am important to someone and that no matter what happens in my life, I will always have that person to care about me.

    I think it makes my marriage better because I know that I am with my DH because I want to be, not because I "have" to be or feel that I have no other options.

    Does that make sense?
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