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Spiritual and Biblical thoughts for the day.... (Abuse) pt 2

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by , 08-30-2008 at 10:37 AM (932 Views)

Does not the Bible, in Proverbs 13:24, state that to “spare the rod is to spoil the child?”

Nowhere in the New Testament—the “new law”—is abuse justified. Rather, the opposite is expected: “that you love one another as I have loved you.” (John 15:12) We are directed in the “Great Commandment” (Matthew 22:37-40) that “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it. You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Our family members—our spouse and children and parents—are our closest “neighbors.” Hebrews 12:7-11 is one scripture that instructs us on discipline. It states that if you are without “discipline” “then you are illegitimate children and not sons.” The key word here is DISCIPLINE. Discipline differs from PUNISHMENT. The goal of discipline is to teach, to direct; it is a time consuming process. The goal of punishment is to control, often through fear; it usually has immediate results. LOVE is demonstrated in guiding a child via discipline into the ways of the Lord.

Doesn’t a person who is abusive recognize their wrongness?

Not necessarily. A person who is abusive (or being abused) may not see the behavior as antagonistic to Christianity or human caring. They may be unclear of how little basis such conduct has in Christian truth, and needless unjustifiable pain may be inflicted partially because of fuzzy Christian thinking, or even a lack of this teaching. Furthermore, they may have grown up themselves in an abusive environment, and may believe that this is a cultural norm. Their own perspective, thus, may be warped due to the abuse THEY received.

Did “the Devil make me do it?”

“Look what you made me do!” and “I would not have done that if…” are words that run throughout our child rearing. The abuser places blame for their abuse and his/her loss of control on some outside force—drugs, alcohol, the child’s (wife’s) behavior, etc. The Bible leaves no doubt that evil is a powerful force. Temptation is real and often ferocious, but “with every temptation is provided the way of escape.” (I Corinthians 10:13) Trying to “pass the buck (of blame)” and excusing behavior is to ignore the fact that the way of escape is available. Recall Adam’s excuse? Eve was his cause, and his excuse, for disobedience! Adam was the original “buck passer.”

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Updated 08-31-2008 at 09:10 AM by trio_a_jedna

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