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Zoe · 08-06-2009, 09:46 AM

sadly it does take time and yes sometimes it takes a while for guys to get back into the swing of things but if its upsetting you ,which it obviously is i would tell him.

I know when ryan was in infantry school - for 8 weeks we had no calls - he sneakly hid a cell behind a brick in the wall of his dorm but i received maybe 3 calls the entire time - when he graduated i could not contain my self!!!!! finally i would hear my honeys voice - How ****ing wrong was I ?

4 days after he left school the only contact id had was one call - which id initiated - i was gutted!

i gave him 3 more days and then still after not hearing from him i called him and between sobs explained - i can deal with no calls when you physically cant call because of school or work - but i can not deal with you not calling me when you actually can ! I mean he was sat on his cute heiny on leave in Texas, doing nothing .

He could call me 10 times a day if he wanted - he was choosing not to!! i was gutted.

So i told him so - it was good that i did, cause as soon as i pointed it out he realized he'd shut down on me , he said he had not meant to and would sort it - and from that day on he has always made an effort ( even when deployed and having only had 4 hrs down time to sleep/shower/**** /shave etc - he'd always make that call for 20 mins and take just the 3hrs 40 mins sleep/down time instead.

Marley you have been unbelievabley patient - but you are also miserable now because of it - you have to tell him!!

08-06-2009, 09:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
Zoe MilitarySOS Jewel Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: London, England Posts: 10,087 Classifieds: (0) Activity: 7% Longevity: 31%	sadly it does take time and yes sometimes it takes a while for guys to get back into the swing of things but if its upsetting you ,which it obviously is i would tell him. I know when ryan was in infantry school - for 8 weeks we had no calls - he sneakly hid a cell behind a brick in the wall of his dorm but i received maybe 3 calls the entire time - when he graduated i could not contain my self!!!!! finally i would hear my honeys voice - How **ing wrong was I ? 4 days after he left school the only contact id had was one call - which id initiated - i was gutted! i gave him 3 more days and then still after not hearing from him i called him and between sobs explained - i can deal with no calls when you physically cant call because of school or work - but i can not deal with you not calling me when you actually can ! I mean he was sat on his cute heiny on leave in Texas, doing nothing . He could call me 10 times a day if he wanted - he was choosing not to!! i was gutted. So i told him so - it was good that i did, cause as soon as i pointed it out he realized he'd shut down on me , he said he had not meant to and would sort it - and from that day on he has always made an effort ( even when deployed and having only had 4 hrs down time to sleep/shower/** /shave etc - he'd always make that call for 20 mins and take just the 3hrs 40 mins sleep/down time instead. Marley you have been unbelievabley patient - but you are also miserable now because of it - you have to tell him!!