Originally Posted by Traci08
He gives a hundred dollars a month. Not enough in my opinion. And yes, I am already meeting with someone about all of this on Wednesday. Its really heartbreaking. I have to live with this, his grandparents and father don't love him enough to make arrangements to have him for two weeks. While he loves them so much! And they don't feel the same. They act like he's this burden. In fact, my husband used that word in his email. If his son and their grandson meant anything to them at all, they would do this. They'd jump at the opportunity and drive down here tomorrow if it meant they could be a part of his life.  |
Oh Traci, this is just so heartbreaking. I think you're doing the right thing though - NO $100 is NOT enough!!!! I know you want so badly to have the love of his father and grandparents for your son... but for now it looks like its just not going to happen. What a shame. I know he has ptsd, and that explains a lot of this, but I will never be ok with a man or woman shirking their responsibility and hurting a childl like this.
I know you won't want to hear this, but sometimes we have to tell each other things we don't want to hear out of love and the sense of wanting to help... I think its time you try to mend your heart and move on. There are sooooo many wonderful, amazing, loving men out there. Men who would kill for that little boy's love. I know you are in love and don't want to move on, but at a certain point you get stuck in waiting and good things pass you by. Its hard, I know. I love my ex very much. And I'm glad we're talking about tryign again... but I cannot wait on him to get it together anymore. I am in my 30s, life is passing me by. I want a family and if he can't give me one... someone else out there will.
I'm so sorry Traci. I really think going to talk to someone about the financial arrangement is a good idea. You have A LOT on your plate, and that's not fair. He's Duane's son too... he should carry half teh financial responsibility - especially since he seems to not want any of the parenting responsibility.
Hugs to you!!!!