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Second, it does sound like you two should slow down that he isn't ready to jump into marriage again. He wouldn't be pulling all this crap if he was.
I think you should take a deep breath, go for a walk, do yoga, something to relieve your stress.
If you want to be with him the best thing right now is patience. How long until he gets leave?
And him spending the entire 30 day there might be best if he really want to work on your relationship.
I hope everything works out.