Originally Posted by wagrrrl
My DB is the junior officer of his unit and they are reserves to boot, so there is NO support for me while he is away. I hadn't really thought about the whole rank thing too much but DB told me that he thinks some of the enlisted guys wives won't socialize with the officer's wives and vice-versa. Some of the wives from his unit were pretty snotty to me at a meeting (being the GF is tough- even though we have been together longer than most of the married folks in his unit!) and of course I have no military ID to get support on any of the bases nearby but I have been reaching out on here and through some people at work who are married to the military and it's been helpful.
My biggest supporter?? A friend of mine and DB's (for 10 years) who just happens to be enlisted in the same unit but hasn't deployed yet. She is great!! She has been able to get DB's holiday box sent with the unit supplies so it'll be there tomorrow and she even arranged for another person who is being sent there tomorrow to take a bunch of frozen food that I have been making for DB. She and I go shopping at the bases and go to lunch every few weeks too. What a lifesaver!!!
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Sometimes the officer wives don't socialize with the enlisted wives because officers can get their asses handed to them if its found out that they are socializing with enlisted, and this transfers to their family. You are your spouse's rank. (Dad used to tell me this all the time, its real strict sometimes)